You ask, what in the heck do you mean by Resistance?  Let me show you a couple of types:

Some Tpical Permanent Issues are:

1. I don’t want to share custody of my children;

2. I don’t want to give up any of my assets to my spouse in our divorce;

3. I don’t want to pay child support or spousal support with my hard earned money;

More Temporary issues in a divorce or child custody action could be:

4. The attorney’s fees for my divorce are killing me.

5. My divorce case is dragging on forever

6. I hate going to the courthouse and my lawyer’s office

Do any of these sound familiar?

I am not saying that you can wave a magic wand and the custody or divorce issues, along with the resistance will go away.

What I am trying to convey to you is that if you can recognize, admit and deal with your resistance, much of your physical, mental and emotional discomfort will dissipate.

THE FIRST STEP is recognizing the Resistance. Make a list of everything that you are currently resisting in your life, whether connected with your divorce or child custody action, or those issues and problems outside of your action.

THE SECOND STEP is to admit your Resistance. Admit to yourself that you are resisting everything on your list. That when you experience anything on your list, you do not feel good physically or emotionally. Your stomach hurts, your head hurts, you are tired and frustrated. These emotions will automatically crop up, often with just looking at an item on your list.

THE THIRD STEP is to deal with your Resistance. Is your resistance to any one of the items on your list help you at all? Or is your resistance just making you sick. You will soon realize that accepting the items on the list as reality, and making a step by step plan to address each of the items, is a healthy way to make your life better.

Just sitting around and “resisting” is only going to make life worse for you and your children in a divorce or child custody action.

Recognizing, admitting and dealing with your resistance is the answer.

One of the best options available to anyone experiencing resistance is to have a divorce or custody coach. A Divorce Coach can help you address each issues of resistance and create a plan with you to overcome the resistance as well as deal with the particular issue in a positive manner.

Solutions exist to almost any issue creating resistance. Sometimes you just need a disinterested 3rd party, who is experienced in the area, to take you by the hand and guide you through the difficult times. Your money will be well spent, not only in terms of a healthier body and mind, but also most often in savings of attorneys fees, getting your case back on track and resolving your case so that you can go forward with your life.